BDSM: The Ultimate Handbook for the Dom and Sub. Training for Pleasure: Training for Pleasure: Volume 1 (Pain and Pleasure)

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I will also adhere to any preference you have to which body lotion or perfume I use after I bathe/shower. During submissive frenzy, you may feel a desperate need to have your desires fulfilled. Many of the activities in BDSM can be considered addictive and frenzy is much like a withdrawal stage. This series will help you understand your urgent feelings and how to listen to your gut when you need it most. Attention- Maybe it’s a sweet text or message or maybe it’s a voice message. Either way it’s special attention that is given to the sub as a reward for following directions. Ensure you know your server’s experience level to determine the level of training you will give them.

For those not in the know, subspace is what Monieau describes as being a ‘nice bonus’ of being a submissive.In this week's video tip I talk about what training is to a submissive and the value it has to a D/s relationship. Sitting in a corner- Submissive sits in the corner of the room to have quiet reflection on the rule breaking. This should not be for an undetermined amount of time. Dominants should be careful to tow the line between correction and abuse. submissive proper protocol within the home and the rules of the house. Other Dominants give their submissive rules that they have to learn and then use a punishment and reward system to instill them.

Things they find pleasurable- The Dominant should find out things that submissive would like to try or things that she really likes and give her more of that as a reward Maybe it’s something as easy as allowing her to masturbate while taking a hot bath or as elaborate as a spa day being pampered. Be creative with this one. You know how sexual anticipation is hot AF? Orgasm denial is next-level sexual anticipation for those who love a throbbing clit or a boner that’s been hard forever just dying to get off—which is to say, almost everyone. The dominant partner will typically bring the submissive close or to the brink of orgasm, then stop. Repeat as necessary. When a submissive finds the right Dominant, some magic can happen. But there is one more step. You both need to agree on what you will both do, your limits, and punishments. ContractsBDSM is all about enthusiastic consent. The dominant partner won’t step on their submissive’s head and then shove it into a toilet without a big ole’ “yes, please!”

Smut Drop is a weekly podcast with host Miranda Kane from Metro.co.uk, touching on sex, dating and relationships. I grew up thinking sex was shameful,’ Monieau adds. ‘I didn’t even know what masturbation really was, but I knew it was bad. In removing or putting on of shoes, I always kiss the tops of His feet. Once the shoes are off or on respectively, from my kneeling position I wrap my arms around His calves and press my head down softly on His lap. He then bends at the waist and embraces me and we hold that moment. In this way, I show my devotion and love, and He shows His acceptance and reciprocation. I am just now beginning to learn how to undress for Sir. I feel a bit silly, but the lingerie I wear for Him helps. So far He has only specified me to remove my panties while facing away from Him, slightly bent over. Beyond that, He has only asked that I please Him with my removal of my clothes, and I try to be creative and pleasing in the process. Embark on a 60-day guided deep dive into Subjective Reality and revolutionize your connection to the world. Manifest wealth, relationships, and courage while experiencing incredible creative flow guided by synchronicities.

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You’ll find many other key topics on Submissive Guide that could help you learn more about your submissive and how they feel. A couple of the more frequent buzzwords across all social networks and communities are subspace, sub drop, sub frenzy, and aftercare. I’ve created entire series’ for each of these topics that you develop your own knowledge of where a submissive stands on these subjects. Being both a Dominant and a submissive means being uncomfortable, being vulnerable, open, honest, truthful, respectful, have a sense of humor, and a willingness to fail and grow from those failures. Some of you know and have known for a long time that you were one or the other. Some of you may have times where you feel Dominant and at other times submissive (this is called a Switch). Wherever you fall, just be really honest with yourself about who you are and know that whoever you are and however you identify, you is amazing and never let anyone make you feel otherwise. Coming up next...

I will adhere to any preferencethe Masterhave regarding which collar I am allowed to wear and for how long I may wear it each day. Many people believe female submissives are brain-washed and unintelligent or just following the social normative ideas around men and women,’ Monieau explains on Metro.co.uk’s no-holds-barred sex podcast, Smut Drop. ‘But that is such a broad generalisation. There are plenty of confident, competent submissives who work in numerous high-powered, demanding roles, who just want to be submissive in the bedroom.’ In all fairness a lot of submissives begin to identify themselves as belonging to their Dom and that everything they do is no longer their own. But not all, and certainly only learned if that is how the Dominant wishes them to be. KnyghtMare likes that I have a unique identity separate from his and that I have achievements that aren't necessarily related to him. As one of Sir's favorite ways to have me, positioning for rear entry is very important. He prefers a similar position to that of spanking, with more of a reverse lean so as to better accommodate His thrusts.

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My first actual training occurred when we reached my home our first day together. Sir sat on my couch, and took one of the pillows, placing it at His feet, He instructed me to kneel and remove His shoes. He informed me at that time that His women do not kneel on the floor, only on pillows, and so I learned my first lesson. Now, unless we are in a rush, I kneel at His feet and put on and remove His shoes. You know what we're talking about — the things that make you go "Yikes!" Don't let these things turn you off of submission completely, though. Keep in mind that just because others enjoy something doesn't mean that you have to. Know your limits and stand firm.